Dating has seen a lot of changes over the years. Before the internet, traditional courtship was the name of the game. Love letters, formal visits, and other grand gestures were on the dating checklist.
Fast forward to 2022 and getting dates are now one click or swipe away â depending on your chosen platform. Need company? Go online and youâre good. Sounds convenient, yes?
One thing that hasnât changed? The art of holding conversations remains important in 2022. Even if youâre dating online, you still need to know how to keep someone engaged. Physical attraction can only do so much to get you over the dating hump (that is, if you want to).
People go on dates for various reasons. One common reason? They want someone to spend the rest of their lives with. If you want a happy ending to your love story, the writing starts with great conversations.
Your conversation topics serve as the foundation for you and your match to get to know each other. And itâs not just the content of your conversations; the delivery also matters.
As you and your date get to know one another, youâll see if thereâs something special brewing. And if there is, youâll also find out if the person youâre seeing will meet your long-term relationship needs.
Mexican women are naturally passionate. If you want to keep up and maintain their interest, you should learn how to make your conversations interesting. Fear not, though, because weâll help you in that department.
Weâre all aware that first impressions last, yes? This applies to everyone, Mexican women included.
Conversations are an important part of those defining moments (for lack of a better term). If you want to get things rolling, you should be the one to start chatting â especially if youâre the one who asked her out.
Is it intimidating? Absolutely! Starting things off can be uncomfortable, especially if youâre the shy type. What are you going to talk about? How are you going to talk about things?
The thing is, though, dating comes with stepping outside your comfort zone and taking risks. When dating in Mexico, you should be the one to do the initiating since most ladies expect men to make the first move.
While you muster the courage to get the ball rolling, take a few cues from these tried and tested tips.
Before You Start:
Be optimistic.
Cut yourself some slack and have faith. Overthinking ruins things.
Calm your nerves.
Conversations flow better when youâre in a relaxed state.
Give a proper introduction.
Donât forget your manners and introduce yourself properly. This lets your date know who theyâre talking to. Let your date introduce themselves as well.
When Striking Up a Conversation:
Keep things simple.
Thereâs no need to kick things off with philosophical observations. Icebreakers exist for a reason, so use them.
Not everyoneâs up for small talk. It may be inconsequential, but itâs a great starting point that can lead to interesting insights.
As your conversation gets more intimate, youâll find yourself enjoying it.
Fun fact: research indicates that deep conversations have a link to a personâs overall well-being and happiness. See how something small can go a long way?
Mind your body language.
Non-verbal cues are pretty telling. They hold just as much (sometimes even more) weight as words do, so make sure that you walk the talk.
Keep your posture open and relaxed and maintain good eye contact. Flash genuine and natural smiles to let them know youâre having a blast while talking to them.
Ready to start talking? Great! Begin your conversation on a great note with these openers:
Lending a helping hand (when appropriate)
Want to come off as someone whoâs approachable? Start by being genuinely helpful.
If youâre in a situation that allows or permits your assistance, be a gentleman and offer it. Go with something thatâs along the lines of âLooks like youâre carrying a lot of stuff. Do you need help?â when you encounter such a scenario.
Compliments
Everyone likes getting sincere compliments. If you see something pleasant, bring it up.
Donât dish out a compliment for the sake of it. Save it if youâre just using it to get a reaction out of your date. Your date can tell if youâre being insincere, so donât do the âfake it âtil you make itâ approach.
As much as possible, though, avoid commenting on physical features. It may come off as creepy.
Shared experiences
Letâs say youâre at a crowded company party. Everyoneâs trying their luck with networking and youâre politely avoiding people as much as possible. You then bump into someone whoâs doing the same thing.
If you want to shoot your shot, nowâs the chance! You can start things off by commenting on how awkward the atmosphere is for you. If the other person is interested, theyâll share their thoughts. Boom â a conversation begins!
This approach also works at lower stakes. Say, for example, youâre waiting for your turn at a shopâs cash register and the line is long. You encounter an interesting stranger whoâs giving subtle indications of mutual interest. Start small talk by commenting on how the lineâs always long at the establishment youâre in. Once the other person has an engaging response, you can let the conversation flow from there.
Opinions and guidance
Another interesting conversation starter? Ask for someoneâs opinion. Not only will this give you something to talk about, but this will also show the other person that youâre interested. Just make sure to pull this tactic in an appropriate and relevant setting.
You can also use a similar approach when asking for assistance. Just make sure your question wonât be too much for the other person to handle.
Similar history and shared interests
This approach is best used when you and your match have similar backgrounds. Bringing up mutual interests and history makes building a connection a lot easier.
As far as basic dating etiquette goes, dating in Mexico as a foreigner isnât that much different from going out with women from other countries. However, there are some cultural sensibilities and nuances you should be aware of. Steer clear of the following subjects for more pleasant conversations:
Politics
This first subject is a sensitive one, and everyone has their take on it. Spare yourself from a heated debate by putting this on the back burner.
Religion
Mexico doesnât have an official religion. However, Roman Catholicism is pretty strong in the country (as seen in some of its cultural aspects), with most folks practicing it. Donât risk offending your match by keeping your lips sealed on this topic.
Money
Talking about money may be okay in some cultures. However, most Mexicans consider this a no-no. Theyâre usually private about their finances and prefer to keep it that way.
Conversations are building blocks for connecting with Mexican women. Thereâs no textbook procedure for going about them, but you can use this guide as a reference or starting point.
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